It is important to note that falling in love and getting married is only the first step. As with any relationship, sustaining a marriage requires a lot of work, and it has to be done every day. There’s no magic in your relationship anymore, which means that you need to work on your marriage if you want it to flourish. Above and beyond the wedding vows entail dedication and effort to cultivate a genuine closeness and committed relationship.
When the glamour of the wedding fades and reality sets in, one or two surprises may be in store. Some of them may include petty behaviors that you were not aware of or you may find out that you have different beliefs regarding crucial issues including budgeting, children, or leisure time. If there are disagreements, do not use a harsh tone, and do not accuse your partner. However, rephrase problems as if they are challenges that require the team’s collective effort to address. Always take the perspective of the problem, try to find the middle ground, and always consider common interests.
Try to make quality time spent together a priority. Despite, going out on dates, going out for the weekend, or getting into new interests as a couple, these are all activities that allow you to keep getting to know one another and forming better ties. The concept of hope can be elicited by using skills such as asking questions that cannot be answered in a single word, and or statements such as revealing past positive experiences and personal goals. Try to make a small gesture in the form of love every time you can. Sexting during the day allows for sexual closeness even when partners are not physically together.
The key here is to make sure the relationship check-ins are done regularly and it is perfectly okay to volunteer feedback on the strengths and weaknesses of the partnership. It enables you both to express needs and avoid the growth of resentment in the relationship. During these check-ins, let your partner know that you are grateful for the things he/she has done and that you are still committed to having a long-lasting relationship.
Avoid being distracted by things like phones, televisions, or any other gadgets when you are together. Listening to your partner carefully out of interest or concern is one way of building emotional closeness. Look them in the eye, ask additional questions about what they are telling you, and repeat back what you are hearing. Do not just sit silently and wait for your turn to speak – participate.
Accept the fact that you will both be constantly growing and evolving as people throughout your lifetime. The person that you are is not the person that you are going to be in the next 5 years, 10 years, or 40 years from now. Accept these changes in you and your partner. Trying to change who the other has become to their current state may not be easy instead try to understand the journey that each is going through.
When conflict is inevitable, fight fair. Avoid being rude and unnecessarily aggressive to your partner just for the sake of making a point. Walk away if you feel the arguments become too intense and personal. It is always wise to come back to the discussion when the emotions are not so high. Look for the middle ground and do not pursue judgment. In the end, everyone is fighting for the same company, so unite against outside issues instead of fighting amongst yourselves.
Keeping the flames burning in the bedroom also makes sure that the physical aspect of a marriage is also important as well. This way, sex does not become monotonous and uninteresting: Be adventurous and always try to discover each other’s needs. Try to wake up early in the morning and shower, dress, and go to bed with your partner only to make love. Whether it is a new food place or a movie, doing things you have never done before with your partner strengthens your bond while also eliminating dull moments.
CONCLUSION
To sum it up, know that you have selected each other at the end of the day. Never let go of that “in it to the end” attitude when things get rough. Always support each other and trust your partner without questioning his or her motives. Treat your marriage like a relationship of plenty not of lack and therefore insecurity. The actions taken daily in a relationship dictate whether the seeds you sow will grow into a healthy tree or a sickly plant in the course of your lifetime. Therefore, water those seeds regularly, remove the weeds gently and witness the blossoming of your eternal affection.
