Six Signs You Need Marriage Counseling
Marriages can face challenging times, and living together can sometimes lead to stress and unresolved conflicts. Arguments and long-standing issues can strain a relationship, but a rocky period doesn’t mean the marriage has to end. When both partners are committed to preserving their relationship, marriage counseling (or couples therapy) can help repair and rejuvenate the connection, restoring the love and respect that brought them together.
If you feel your marriage is struggling and both partners want to make it work, marriage counseling can provide valuable support. Rather than assigning blame, counseling focuses on helping you reconnect and grow together as a couple.
Couples therapy is most effective when sought early before problems escalate. How can you determine if it’s time to see a marriage counselor?
Here are six signs that your marriage might need professional help:
You're Always Walking on Eggshells Around Your Partner
Marriages can face challenging times, and living together can sometimes lead to stress and unresolved conflicts. Arguments and long-standing issues can strain a relationship, but a rocky period doesn’t mean the marriage has to end. When both partners are committed to preserving their relationship, marriage counseling (or couples therapy) can help repair and rejuvenate the connection, restoring the love and respect that brought them together.
If you feel your marriage is struggling and both partners want to make it work, marriage counseling can provide valuable support. Rather than assigning blame, counseling focuses on helping you reconnect and grow together as a couple.
Couples therapy is most effective when sought early before problems escalate. How can you determine if it’s time to see a marriage counselor? Here are six signs that your marriage might need professional help:
You Argue Constantly
The opposite of walking on eggshells is a couple that is always combative and constantly arguing – often about trivial things. Couples therapy shows you how both partners’ communication patterns lead to constant fights and teaches you how to stop arguments before they start.
You Rarely Speak to Each Other
If you and your spouse have almost stopped speaking to each other, is it because you can’t stand each other or you’ve slowly drifted apart? As time goes on, you may feel that you have less and less in common with your spouse, leading to a breakdown in communication. Eventually, you start leading separate lives while sharing the same home.
Marriage counseling can give you tools to find out the reasons for the communication breakdown and open up dialogue and trust again. With proper couple therapy, you and your partner can once again find that connection that bonded you to each other in the past.
You Keep Secrets from Your Spouse
One of the golden rules of marriage is no secrets! But if you’re keeping secrets from your spouse, that means you don’t trust them or are afraid of their reaction if you confide in them. Chances are, your partner is keeping secrets from you too. Through marriage counseling, each of you will uncover the desire to open up to the other and start sharing your lives again.
You Withhold Love
You Withhold Love
A lack of intimacy that is not caused by a physiological condition is often a sign that your marriage is in trouble. Not being intimate with each other can take an emotional toll on you and your spouse, as acts of physical intimacy and sex release hormones like dopamine and oxytocin that increase euphoria and energy.
With proper couple therapy, you can find the underlying emotional or psychological reasons for the lack of intimacy. Working through those issues can take you back to enjoying the best of all that marriage has to offer.
The fact is, if you feel you may need marriage counseling, then you probably do need it. You’ll be better off seeing a couple therapist at the first signs of trouble in your relationship, than waiting until toxic habits become entrenched. When both or even one partner comes in for marriage counseling, it’s a sign that the marriage can be put back on course.
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Inquiries are welcome and are personally answered by Dr. Millian, Psychologist and Marriage/Couples Counselor, Connecticut and Bergen County, NJ. For a prompt response please call or text her at 203-313-1208.
