The role of a second wife or husband is rife with difficulties, and those in the form of a fearful and innocent child can be especially challenging. The child of a divorced parent needs understanding, love and a firm, guiding hand. Divorce disrupts family life and triggers a child’s confusion because of divided loyalties toward parents.

It is important to assure the child that he/she is loved and wanted in both parent’s homes, despite the divorce. The consistent assurance will help stabilize the youngster and lessen loyalty issues. Let the child know he/she is “safe” to express honest feelings. Nothing will be held against him/her. Help the child to feel “special” in the new family setting.